U.S. Prisons and Jails Are Threatening the Lives of Pregnant Women and Babies - In These Times


By Victoria Law

**A six month investigation reveals the horrific and shameful conditions facing pregnant prisoners—and the inhumane treatment they receive.  
Though the United States accounts for only 5 percent of the world’s women, it has 33 percent of the world’s women prisoners. 
At 5 a.m. on June 12, 2012, lying on a mat in a locked jail cell, without a doctor, Nicole Guerrero gave birth. 
Guerrero was eight-and-a half months pregnant when she arrived 10 days earlier at Texas’ Wichita County Jail. The medical malpractice lawsuit Guerrero has filed—against the county, the jail’s healthcare contractor, Correctional Healthcare Management, and one of the jail’s nurses, LaDonna Anderson—claims she began experiencing lower back pain, cramps, heavy vaginal discharge and bleeding on June 11. The nurse on duty told her there was no cause for concern until she had bled through two sanitary napkins. Several painful hours later, Guerrero pushed the medical emergency button in her cell.
At 3:30 a.m., more than four hours later, Guerrero was finally taken to the nurse’s station. Guerrero says she showed Anderson her used sanitary pads filled with blood and fluids, but was not examined. Instead, she was taken to a one-person holding cell with no toilet, sink or emergency call button, known as the “cage.” 
At 5 a.m., her water broke. She called out to Anderson, but, Guerrero says, Anderson refused to check on her. Shortly after, Guerrero felt her daughter’s head breach. A passing guard stopped to assist her, and Guerrero, unable to keep from pushing, gave birth on a blood and pus-covered mattress. The baby was dark purple and unresponsive, with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck. When Anderson arrived minutes later, she did not attempt to revive the baby, Guerrero says. The EMTs got there after 20 minutes and rushed the baby to the hospital. Guerrero remained in the cage, where she delivered the placenta. At 6:30 a.m., the baby was pronounced dead. 
No data, no problem 
The number of women who cycle through U.S. jails is increasing by approximately 1.6 percent each year, to 109,100 in 2014, while the number of women in prisons has risen nearly tenfold in the past 40 years, to 111,300 in 2013. Though the United States accounts for only 5 percent of the world’s women, it has 33 percent of the world’s women prisoners. 
There is no current data on how many of those women are pregnant. In 2004, a Bureau of Justice Statistics survey found that 3 percent of women in federal prisons and 4 percent of those in state prisons were pregnant upon arrival. The statistics on pregnancy in local jails is older—a 2002 survey found that 5 percent of women entered local jails pregnant. At those rates, approximately 9,430 pregnant women are incarcerated annually.
There is even less data on what kind of care pregnant prisoners receive: their nutrition, prenatal check-ups and medical attention, which can be a matter of infant life or death in cases like Guerrero’s. Nor do we hear much about the trauma of pregnancy and childbirth under prison conditions, or the heartbreak of having an infant taken away hours after birth. 
In a six-month investigation, In These Times reached out to dozens of incarcerated women, activists and advocates, seeking to reach women who had been pregnant behind bars. Twelve came forward to share their stories. 
In These Times then requested information about pregnancy care and policies from the prisons and jails where the women were incarcerated. Only four of eight complied. Correct Care Solutions, a contractor that provides healthcare at Nashville’s Davidson County Jail, refused, declaring that private companies do not need to open their records to public scrutiny. Those that did provide records typically took months to do so, and the data was often poor. Phoenix’s Maricopa County Jail records live births, miscarriages and abortions, but not stillbirths. Washington’s Clark County Jail keeps track of the number of medical visits by pregnant women (42 in 2014), but not the number of pregnant women incarcerated. 
However, from the 12 individual women’s accounts, a picture began to emerge. Many received no medical care or experienced long waits. Most were constantly hungry. Others were restrained during labor, delivery or postpartum recovery, even in states that ban the practice. The majority of those who gave birth in custody had their infants taken away within 48 hours. 
Care and loathing 
Medical neglect can endanger the lives of pregnant women as well as fetuses.
Diana Claitor, executive director of the Jail Project of Texas, says she interviewed a young woman whose complaints of extreme pain were dismissed by a jail doctor as morning sickness. But “it was because her fetus had been dead for some time,” says Claitor, who also examined the woman’s medical records. “She was very ill and could have died.” The woman was finally taken to the emergency room, where she delivered the dead fetus.  
Bridgette Gibbs says that, despite telling staff of her history of miscarriages, she received no medical attention in two months of pregnancy at the Westchester County, N.Y., jail. She still hadn’t been examined when, early in her second trimester, she went into labor. Before being taken to the hospital, she was strip-searched and shackled at the hands, waist and ankles. She gave birth to twins handcuffed to the bed, and was still handcuffed there hours later when she learned that her premature newborns had died. The hospital told her that the early labor was the result of a treatable infection. (The Westchester County Department of Correction could not confirm or deny her story, saying that it no longer has Gibbs’ records.)  
In Arizona, complaints about prison medical care prompted the ACLU and the Prison Law Office to file a class-action suit in 2012. An accompanying investigation uncovered two incidents in the summer of 2013 when officials at the state prison in Perryville dismissed women’s claims that they were going into labor. One woman said that it took two hours to convince the guards to transport her to the hospital. She gave birth 20 minutes after arrival. The other said nurses refused to believe her water had broken even after it tested positive for amniotic fluid. Officers sent her to the hospital only when she began screaming. 
‘It hurts to be hungry like that’ 
Pregnant women especially need nutrient-rich food. It’s typically recommended that they eat three or more servings of fresh fruits, vegetables, dairy and protein each day, as well as several servings of whole grain breads or other complex carbohydrates. Nutritional deficits can, for example, increase the risk of gestational diabetes, which can cause a fetus’s trunk and shoulders to become too big for vaginal birth.
“Withholding healthy food from a pregnant woman is withholding medical care,” says Tess Timoney, a certified nurse-midwife and director of women’s HIV services at New York’s Bronx-Lebanon Hospital. 
In jails and prisons, meal times, foods and portions are limited. More than half of the dozen women interviewed by In These Times recalled an overwhelming, unrelenting hunger.  Some jails and prisons specify a special pregnancy diet and an additional snack. But women report that these foods are often inadequate. 
Twenty-three-year-old Minna Long was pregnant with twins when she entered the Clark County jail in Washington state in 2010. She received an extra 8-ounce carton of milk with all three meals, but, she recalls, “There were countless times the milk was expired and sour and I couldn’t drink it.” Her pregnancy also caused her to feel revulsion toward many of the foods served. During her four months in jail, she subsisted on milk, fruit and cold cereal, as well as commissary purchases of donuts, candy, trail mix, meat and cheese sticks, and flavored popcorn.  Kandyce (who is still incarcerated, and asked that her last name not be used and her prison not be specified, for fear of retaliation) says that when she was pregnant in prison in 2014, between breakfast and dinner was a 12-hour wait. “It hurts to be hungry like that,” she says. 
‘I don’t ever want to be pregnant again’ 
Even when medical care is adequate, the restrictions and confinement inherent in prisons can make pregnancy and birthing traumatic. It is standard policy in U.S. prisons and jails to strip search prisoners upon entering and exiting, including a squat and cough, with no exceptions for pregnant or postpartum women. 
A five-year study by the nonprofit Correctional Association of New York found that while there were delays in pregnancy care upon arrival, most women in state prisons then received prenatal care at roughly the frequency recommended by the U.S. Department of Health. Waiting for those visits, however, was often painful. Women were seated for up to five hours on a narrow wooden bench with no food or water. Though pregnant women are supposed to move around frequently to ease muscle tension and prevent fluid build-up, the women were not allowed to stand, and were often threatened with disciplinary tickets if they leaned back. 
Kandyce saw a doctor regularly during her pregnancy, but the nurses, she says, strictly enforced the prison’s policies and often refused her doctor’s requests. For instance, her doctor asked for a wedge pillow and an extra mattress to supplement the thin prison mattress. “As you get bigger, they get thinner,” Kandyce recalls. “I’m already heavyset and being pregnant was even worse—I couldn’t really breathe if I wasn’t propped up.” The nurses denied her the pillow but allowed extra blankets. Those were confiscated by officers in the monthly room search, however, and each time, Kandyce had to go to the sergeant to get them back. “By the time I was eight months pregnant, I was really frustrated,” she said.  Medical staff told Kandyce that she needed a caesarean section. The night before, she was placed in the prison’s Inpatient Unit. “You’re in a room by yourself—no TV, no book, no nothing,” she recalls. “All you do is sit in this room by yourself. You know that you’re about to have your baby [and] that you’re going to have to give your daughter up. All you have time to do is think about it.” By 11 a.m., when officers arrived to transport her to the hospital, she no longer wanted to go through with it. “I just wanted to keep my baby with me.” 
Normally, caesarean sections require only regional anesthesia, but when Kandyce arrived at the hospital, she was so stressed and anxious that the doctor—a man she had never met—decided to put her to sleep. “My daughter was going to be here and everything was wrong,” she recalls thinking. Her daughter was born healthy, but the entire experience was so devastating that Kandyce says, “I don’t ever want to be pregnant again.”
Each time Minna Long went to court, jail staff placed her in handcuffs, ankle cuffs and a waist chain, a practice known as shackling. Then, they stopped. Washington had become the seventh state to pass legislation restricting the shackling of pregnant women. That was in 2010; fourteen states have followed suit. 
But advocacy groups in California, Massachusetts, New York, Pennsylvania and Texas have found that the practice persists despite bans. Sierra Watts, 37, incarcerated in Washington state just after the law went into effect, learned this firsthand. While she was allowed to give birth without restraints, she was then cuffed to the bed. Her son was placed in a cradle next to her. “I just had to lean over to get him out, but it’s harder when you can’t move that far,” she says.
The Washington State Department of Corrections says that “a post-incident review determined she was not supposed to be cuffed.” 
Sierra’s choice 
For Sierra Watts, the worst part wasn’t the shackling, but what followed. Although she had granted her mother temporary guardianship, child welfare workers told her that they would not send her son to live with his grandmother. After spending 24 hours with her newborn, Watts was taken back to prison without knowing her son’s fate. Because he was born on a Friday, he was to remain in the hospital until child welfare offices opened on Monday. 
As Watts tells this story, her eyes fill with tears.“He was going to stay in the hospital with nobody holding him, nobody knows where he’s going, nobody’s even going to tell me where he’s going,” she says. “Nobody said [to me], ‘It’s going to be okay. We’re going to watch him. We won’t let anything happen to him.’ ” She did not learn where he was placed until the following Tuesday. The next—and last—time she saw him in person was during a prison visit one year later, shortly before he was adopted.
Under the 1997 Adoption and Safe Families Act, if a child is in foster care for 15 of 22 months, the state must begin proceedings to terminate parental rights. Watts says that she initially fought to maintain custody, but finally signed away her rights. “They told me that if I was to take it to trial and lose, then I wouldn’t be able to get photos or hear how he’s doing or send him cards or anything,” she says. She receives photos of her son, age 3, several times a year, but never sees or speaks to him.That’s relatively common for incarcerated women who give birth; two other women interviewed by In These Times arranged for their babies to be adopted.
By contrast, when Michelle Barton, 37, gave birth in an Oklahoma prison in 2013, she knew that her baby would be safe with her sister-in-law, who was already taking care of Barton’s 3-year-old son until her release from prison. But she still cried when it was time to leave the hospital. Upon her return to prison, she was reminded how little motherhood means there. A nurse had given her a piece of paper with her daughter’s footprint. The officer who strip-searched her upon arrival threw it away. “Getting strip searched is nothing,” Barton says, but watching her daughter’s footprint tossed into the garbage “just tore my heart out.” 
"Another way" 
Michelle Barton’s daughter was 18 months old when Barton was released from prison in August. She boarded a bus to Oklahoma City with only the clothes on her back. Although she has a job lined up at Church’s Chicken, she is homeless and cannot reclaim her two young children from her sister-in-law until she finds affordable housing.
The Mabel Bassett Correctional Center spends $14,800 per year to incarcerate each woman. Barton was there for nearly two years. What if that $29,600 had been spent directly on resources for her and her family?
Oklahoma’s incarceration cost is dramatically low. At the Washington Corrections Center for Women, incarcerating each woman costs $44,400 per year. Sierra Watts was sentenced to 40 months. What if the $148,000 spent to imprison her had instead been spent to help her stay out of the prison system? 
The UN Rules for the Treatment of Women Prisoners and Non-custodial Measures for Women Offenders, known as the Bangkok Rules, recommend that for a pregnant woman or a child’s primary caregiver, “non-custodial measures should be preferred where possible and appropriate.” But pregnancy and parenting are rarely taken into consideration in the U.S. legal system. Across the nation, more than 120,000 mothers and 1.1 million fathers of children under 18 are behind bars. Approximately 10 million children have had a parent incarcerated at some point in their lives. 
Recognizing that maternal incarceration can devastate children, some states are exploring alternatives. In November 2014, the Delaware Department of Correction created New Expectations, a group home for pregnant women with drug addictions who would otherwise be imprisoned. The home provides meals, prenatal vitamins, clothing, toys, intensive substance abuse counseling, and classes on infant care, parenting, breastfeeding, nutrition and budgeting. But the facility is run by the Department of Corrections and its healthcare provider, Connections Community Support Programs, and the doors are locked and alarmed. 
By contrast, New York City’s Drew House and JusticeHome operate independently of the prison system. To be eligible, mothers must plead guilty to felony charges—but the charges are dismissed once they complete the program. In the meantime, they avoid prison, and their children avoid foster care. 
Olgita Blackwood’s youngest child was barely a week old when she was arrested. “I was so worried about my kids,” she told the Associated Press. “They depend on me. They asked for me every day.” The 24-year-old was sent to Drew House instead of prison, enabling her to stay with her three children. Nearly two years later, as she prepared to take her GED, she said that the program made her independent. “I can make decisions on my own, raise my kids. I can’t imagine it any other way now.” 
What if such alternatives to incarceration were available everywhere? The Bangkok Rules recognize that women’s needs are unmet in a prison model designed for men and that women’s incarceration is often a result of layers of gender discrimination. In addition to recommending non-custodial measures for pregnant women, the UN urges countries to establish alternatives to imprisonment for all women. 
If the United States took these ideas seriously—or at least took seriously its basic healthcare responsibilities in its prisons and jails—today, Nicole Guerrero might be watching her 3-year-old daughter, Myrah Arianna, scamper around the playground.  
**This investigation was supported by the Fund for Investigative Journalism and the Leonard C. Goodman Institute for Investigative Reporting.
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The Racism of Mass Incarceration, Visualized: an Interview With Bruce Western - The Atlantic

The Racism of Mass Incarceration, Visualized: an Interview With Bruce Western - The Atlantic:

Mass Incarceration, Visualized
Sep 11, 2015 | 13-part series
Video by The Atlantic

In this animated interview, the sociologist Bruce Western explains the current inevitability of prison for certain demographics of young black men and how it's become a normal life event. "We've chosen the response of the deprivation of liberty for a historically aggrieved group, whose liberty in the United States was never firmly established to begin with," Western says. In The Atlantic's upcoming October cover story, Ta-Nehisi Coates explores the impact of mass incarceration on the black family.



Authors: Jackie Lay, Bruce Western, Kasia Cieplak-Mayr von Baldegg, Ta-Nehisi Coates

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A tipping point for criminal justice reform - CNN.com

A tipping point for criminal justice reform - CNN.com:



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There’s a scientific reason for the racism built into America’s criminal justice system

There’s a scientific reason for the racism built into America’s criminal justice system

Drug Awareness and Child Soldiers in The War On Drugs



Fact: children can be more resilient than adults. Some kids, like NFL star Demaryius Thomas, display remarkable tenacity and transition into adulthood triumphantly despite growing up the child of an incarcerated parent. Some kids are less fortunate, and end up continuing the cycle, by way of cradle to prison pipeline.

When the government decided to intervene in "the 80's crack epidemic" to punish and rid America of its addicts, mythical crack babies, and "Nino Brown" pushermans (all disproportionately black males, see Rico & Rockefeller Laws) by installing youth drug prevention programming and outreach in schools nationwide; mass incarceration was not a buzzword yet. But exploitative television shows, such as "Cops", were then a primetime hit with audiences, so mass media plied Americans with enough reasons to contribute to why it would become a phrase in the near future, when the problem hit too close to home. The flipside of the coin was that it was entertaining to watch other people go to jail or prison on television, but not to watch your own family members and friends go in reality; or worse, make that trip to the bricks and walls yourself. So begat the war on drugs, as we know it. The government contracted services to deliver to youth to educate and protect them from the scourge of drugs. Enter Nancy Reagan, Just Say No, and the D.A.R.E. program.

This was the ideology of the D.A.R.E. program:  "It was OK when America watched hippies trip on drugs in the sixties, but not cool now so let's use that fear to push police into schools to scare kids about drugs.
Ya know. The parents guilt will allow it, the teachers won't mind a break, and the government will dig it."

Maybe it took a while for society to collectively dissimilate and process that good people are sometimes incarcerated for the wrong reasons, and that its justice system is so heavily flawed. It had to sink in that drugs were a health matter, as well as a public safety matter, not just a narrow minded area of criminal justice. That children aren't stupid; that grade school children generally don't sell or use drugs, now and then.

D.A.R.E. wasted 700 million dollars on police "schooling" youth about drug culture while robbing them of precious classroom instructional time. The implication of this sort of outreach strategy using law enforcement officers on black youth holds much significance when one considers that schools in lower income areas were the initial target of the program. (at that time, police officers in schools were not altogether commonplace.) Now police are prevalent in schools, having its own set of benefits and issues.

The program was a failure, and it actually ended up making things worse in that it encouraged kids to relate to or be familiar with drugs and drug culture in a harmful way, in the perspective of sometimes negative and inappropriate direct law enforcement involvement. Sometimes, there was information shared that was too complex for the age level. Or worse, the in-class discussions that encouraged that shamed and stigmatized children before their peers that were facilitated by insensitive or bumbling officers who didn't have the training to deal with trauma and childhood psychological/psychiatric matters. Obviously, certain topics would make continuing professional development outside of the 80 hour D.A.R.E. officer curriculum a serious need.

I can personally recall my own personal negative experiences with the D.A.R.E. program and how it shaped my childhood view of  "police school time" which is exactly what we called the officers who showed up before lunch in my fourth grade class time. A few bad recollections that come to mind:

  • When the officer brought the briefcase full of labeled drug vials and baggies, handcuffed to himself, giving a talk about the dangers of its contents and not to touch, before showing us what was inside. He opened it in such a mysterious and dramatic fashion that could give a child the impression that drugs were fantastic things (i.e. "presto" "a magician's case", glamorising the unveiling of them. The hanging  assortment of drugs on display in the attache case looked like candies to us children, and I said so, to my teachers' horror. The point was supposed to be so that we could identify the drugs, know the names and not get tricked into using them. Since substances change form, and names, this was a fail.
  • That time the other kids called one kid a crackhead because he looked and dressed poorly, after the officer explained how crack was for poor people and you can get robbed by crackheads, they smoke it out of t.v. antennas after they steal your t.v. set., and the crime rate's high due to crack...yada yada.
  • The day I went home feeling sad because I realized that people in my family were on drugs, and I was mad the police could take them from me because of it. Thank goodness my mama knew what to say.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not totally against school drug outreach programs and awareness, it's just common sense to have them in place. There is however, a responsible approach. It wasn't D.A.R.E., and the money spent kinda seems like a backwards investment. Like investing in the cradle to prison pipeline backwards. Some gather that the schematics of the whole drug war war were intentional. Either way, we got served.
Who needs school drug awareness when their parents and big pharma are the kiddie drug pushers nowadays, not the racist stereotypical boogeyman of "sketchy black guys on street corners"? Kids are very aware surely! Yet, good ol' D.A.R.E.'s still around for some reason. You do the math.

The War on Drugs hasn't ended by a long shot for people of color in the racist social undercaste of The New Jim Crow. Children of incarcerated parents face social stigmas, "doing time" right along with their parents, paying a price they didn't deserve. Police run drug programs can normalize criminal justice interactions for children. Mass incarceration will continue to disproportionately impact black men and women as long as we allow our children to be mis-educated or undereducated about the systems, such as criminal justice, that they are subject to, as citizens of the United States of America .We as parents, not the schools, are responsible for effectively teaching children drug awareness and decision making skills. Who is to blame, really?

Whitney Houston told no lies when she said the children are our future. Clearly, the change is up to us.

7 Reasons why black youth are murdered in America by bigots



1.  The punishment rarely fits the coldbloodedness of the crime. Premeditated murder is capital murder.

2.  Historically, premeditated murders perpetrated against people of color by white people in America have not formally been addressed in a direct conversation between us. Slavery, and the racism and brutality of the civil rights era have been, in the form of apologies, speeches, holidays. Are bloody black bodies taboo?

3. Deluded (white) people who believe that they are incapable of violence, destruction, or harm, merely "acts of heroism" or self-defense" which is their right that they must act out whenever fear strikes them
 (which is often, as a coward always tries to convince himself he is a hero.)

4. Fear Goggles. Say what now?  (It's a phrase coined by Jessica Williams of The Daily Show)
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2014/02/19/1278732/-Jon-Stewart-and-Jessica-Williams-deconstruct-Michael-Dunn-verdict?detail=email

5. We are desensitized to black teen mortality. It is "normal" for black youth to die by "violent means".

6. Young people are easy targets, and willingly engage with strangers, as it in a child's nature; thus "Stranger Danger" and other childhood tactics we teach to try to protect our youth that sometimes sadly, fail us.

7. We rely heavily on heavily flawed systems of public safety, that are not designed or intended to protect people of color, and explain away the failings of said systems with more reliance on the same systems to correct these flaws. What sense does this make? The cycle continues...


*I chose not to give this blog post any formal opening or closing, so as to translate to its reader the irrationality of violence and the cold, abrupt, finality that epitomizes murder. #RIP Jordan. #enoughisenough



The Hidden Hatred of Black Women

Hey swagger jackers, I got some new content for you to steal! Just kidding! Listen, I blog for creative outlet. Imitation is the blah blah blah...flattery... Be original though. Thank you to people who read this blog with the intention of support and interest in what I share. Your comments and links are welcome.

Back to business.

Disclaimer, this one's a "coffee post', meaning brevity is not intended.

The realest and saddest comment, in my opinion, on my social media newsfeed of 2k13 goes to a Ms. Mia Eubanks; she was referencing the hatred shown toward recently murdered domestic violence victim, and young mother Michelle Rowling. http://madamenoire.com/328804/michelle-rowling-reportedly-killed-by-ex/
A YouTube video was compiled by someone under the name "theblackauthority", (which I won't link to here, I refuse to give this individual any views) insinuating that she deserved to be murdered, noting that she had tattoos, tracking her facebook timeline activity and describing it as "ghetto", because she was a "hoodrat" and "liked thugs", as if any human being deserves to be brutally killed. Ms. Eubanks' poignant comment was: "I can't help but feel some of these men think black women should die period."

 
Wow. I sat back. 

Let's all hold that sentence for a second. Men: Relax. If the shoe don't fit, it won't butthurt. (inject humor to diffuse tense moment between the sexes.) But really, does she have a point? Offreakingcourseshedoes!

The hate is real. I turn on the TV, the radio, go online. print magazines, news. Still controlled by plutocratic white men. Hatred in different forms directed at women. But with a special amount of vitriol for black women. How so? Its all in the portrayal. The images of the harlot/hottentot, the mammy/help, the welfare queen/ghetto BAP are all still there for us to feed into and emulate. And yes, we do, and have been for years, some of us. Some black men have been used as puppets in the broader landscape, who were ranting on  "angry black women" being hard to love, and and interracial dating being better. They didn't realize these Kanye-esque rants and putdowns being published was their emotions being used against them was destructive and harmful to their own communities. The misogyny of rap lyrics are old hat, but the message still strikes its feminine target with precision and aplomb. That aggressive misogyny is often translated to rampant domestic violence, with an increased impact on women of color. The comfort that a man now displays with demeaning, abusing, and killing women has me questioning if America has become a Third World Country where a man fears no retribution or conviction for domestic abuse? Why do some black men harbor hate for women that look like his mother, sister, or daughter?

The key operative being SOME men. Understanding the WHO could save many lives. 

This is the undertaking that domestic violence organizations, and law enforcement agencies grapple with, figuring out which situations with people of all ethnicities are the ones with the danger of escalating to homicides. What they are not being forthcoming or realistic about is, that women like Michelle who are in a lower socio-economic caste are not being treated as a priority. The Michelle Rowlings of the world have smaller or no support circles, so are therefore, more susceptible to physical forms of domestic violence and trauma that can lead to homicide. Not too long ago, I worked with an organization on advocating for the passing of a Domestic Violence Survivor's Justice Act Bill in Albany, NY. As we convened and met at the capitol, I met more than survivors, I met leaders, these beautiful, strong, intelligent women unafraid to share their stories. Women like me, who were me. I shared with them that I had a history with a controlling guy that I was glad to have moved on from. I talked to women who when they fled their abuser and sought community linkages, they felt that they had been brushed off, or in some cases, or discriminated against by human services workers and law enforcement personnel because of their ethnicity or appearance, or the neighborhood they lived in, or by the fact that they had low incomes or received public assistance. 

But what the hell would a woman's economic circumstances have to do with her not being strongly enough encouraged/assisted to flee her abuser? Alot. If she is with him, she may be less dependent on other forms of support. Or, by issuing protective orders (which are not warrants and don't enforce or protect anyone, they are requests that can be legitimately violated) and not incarcerating an abuser, it could save the courts money and resources to prosecute "more pressing or legitimate" cases. Sometimes, they "run right back" to their abusers, especially when children are involved. That is not the point, there are wraparound services to address those specific types of issues. It does not make it a "waste of time and resources" to help when you consider the cost in terms of human life. (Quotes in this paragraph represent phrasings of actual statements made about victims of abuse on a social media comment thread.)

This would explain why a young woman like Michelle Rowling might return to her abuser, as a means of financial or familial support, when there can be none found outside the relationship in the community or immediate family. 

As for the guy "blackauthority" who made the video generalizing young black mothers with tattoos as "hoodrats" in the video? In fairness, some argued that there was some truth in what he was saying about lifestyle choices but his delivery was tacky, and that he was victim blaming and disrespecting the dead; causing pain to a grieving family. Some said that his video should stir controversy and strike up a much needed conversation in communities of color. Welp, I found his Facebook account which is  https://www.facebook.com/jason.black.583234  so you can have a conversation with him about it. I'm sure by now his page is now abuzz with comments of cross dialogue. I personally found the clip abusive, in itself.

It is noted that the commenter Ms. Eubanks specifically stated she feels that some of these men think" all black women should die". There is indeed a lot of hostility and general disrespect toward black women, that unfortunately some women perpetrate as a standard, by accepting and tolerating negative behavior from men and acting out in ignorant ways. Some of that can be chalked up to a trend of generalization via negative images of black women in media gathered from reality television and the new media wave of oversharing. 

Since we are considering commonalities regarding generalization and the abusive humiliation of black women, we can also include the sum of those society labels "rachet" because even in jest; these labels can sting and marginalize people that might possibly be in need of help, with deeper issues than we can understand beneath the surface. And maybe not. Maybe its merely their right to self-expression, and none of our damn business. A woman who is free in her sexuality is a "thot", which updates the More insecure men find it hard to come to terms with outspoken, confident women of any ilk, class, or race. Its easier to attack, bully or ridicule the undereducated, poorer ones though. Doubly easier to abuse an previously abused woman, as the cycle of abuse can go.  

And even easier to abuse a dead woman, unable to any longer defend her own name. Nothing on Michelle Rowling's Facebook profile or in her lifestyle justifies her abuser murdering her. Domestic violence is a horrible cycle that is hard to escape. Clearly, her own mind was set that she had no option or way out but death, no help, no one would save her. Her final Facebook post would prove that. No one even responded with concern when she said goodbye, knowing this man was abusive. Shame on those who judge.

Not liking, or loving someone anymore is not justification for the verbal, physical, and emotional abuse; the sheer violence and death warrants that it seems that have been issued to women recently in tragic homicides cases across the country as we're seeing.  Abusers are gender neutral, I acknowledge these circumstances occur in LGBTQ relationships; women do abuse and I am in no way diminishing DV in these instances. What I am referring to here is a specific type of sociopathic male hatred projected onto a female;
The fact women can abuse and harm other women still doesn't negate the fact that there are definitely some men that think we should just die when they don't want us anymore, but don't want anyone else to have us.
I don't generalize.
Some.

I call this "the broken doll" syndrome. He hurt/broke her, and can't fix her, so she is damaged goods and therefore is now permanently abuse-able and disposable. The really advanced cases of abusers might decide to dispose of the doll permanently. Abusers are everywhere. They are not only male, but male abusers are the topic of this post. They are hidden in plain sight amongst us. Hell, they may even be your brother, father, cousin, uncle, church pastor, professor, or neighbor, and this may be the reason why they haven't yet been called out, or locked away, because they have the protection and support that the women that they beat, stalk, harass, and belittle don't. Most of us fear getting involved. 


The comment thread referencing this topic had grown to over one thousand replies at my last notification. It was buzzing with statements like:

Why would he kill her if he loved her? Why would he want the mother of his child to die? What type of man even thinks likes that, and, the million dollar question, what kind of man is the type you'd never think would act upon it? The only answer to that question can only be, my dear other Mia:

An fatally abusive one. 


Mia, thanks for giving me and the others in the comment something painful yet substantial to think about. 

Love - M